(1825-1905) The Proposal (1872).
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Now, when I say “really like,” I mean the guy does not just want sex or a casual fling. He wants to be your boyfriend. He wants to be seen with you while he’s holding your hand. Take it from a guy’s point of view, if we just think you’re sexy, we would NOT feel bad if we say or do something that may turn you off and lose our chance. If we lose one hottie, another one will come along. No biggie. It is different if we're talking about a meaningful relationship. For all you girls and guys out there, here are 10 undeniable signs that prove that a guy is really into you. Believe me, these are tried and tested.
1. HE ASKS FOR YOUR NUMBER
Whatever excuse he may use; if he asks for your number, he is interested. He intends to send you text messages and if he musters enough courage, he will call you. If he doesn’t ask for your number, he may just simply be fascinated but he does not like you enough to communicate with you on a regular basis.
2. HE IS ALWAYS OR USUALLY THERE IN EVENTS OR SMALL GATHERINGS WHERE YOU ARE.
If a guy likes you, he always wants to see you so he will find ways to make sure he is always around you without looking like he’s stalker. If you and your friends will attend a party of a co-worker, he will find a way to get invited. He’ll say, “Oh you’re here. I came here with my friend. Isn’t this a coincidence?”
3. HE SUDDENLY BECOMES INTERESTED IN THINGS THAT YOU LIKE.
He may hate drinking coffee but if he suddenly starts drinking coffee because you love this black brew; it is a sure sign that he is into you. This is especially true if he talks to you with a cup of coffee and start talking about the best coffees in town and the best Starbuck and CBTL branches. If he hates Celine Dion and then you hear him humming “Because You Love Me,” then, the guy is falling for you.
4. HE LEAVES HIS FRIENDS FOR YOU
If he has an appointment but he cancels it so just he will have a chance to meet you, he doesn’t just want to be your friend, he wants to be your boyfriend. If he skips his basketball game with his buddies because you invited him, he is more passionate in scoring with you than scoring a 3-point shot.
5. AFTER YOUR FIRST PSEUDO-DATE OR NON-DATE, HE CALLS YOU OR SEND YOU A TEXT MESSAGE
If it just so happen that you and he went on a non-date, meaning you went out together as friends, and afterwards, he sent you “innocent” messages like “I had a nice time” or “Are you home?” or “Get home safely,” then he wants to go on a real date next time.
6. IF YOU TALK TO HIM, HE ACTUALLY LISTENS
If you talk to him and he actually listens instead of blabbering about what he likes to do, where he has been, who the people he knows and such and such, then he wants to enjoy your company as often and as long as possible. A simple short casual chat does not satisfy him anymore. He wants more, and that “more” is you, fully-clothed.
7. IF HE STOPS TALKING ABOUT YOU TO HIS BUDDIES
After a date, if a guy suddenly does not blabber about you to his buddies, he simply shuts up, he is falling in love. Guys love to kiss and tell but if he suddenly zips his lips, he’s protecting you. He wants his few moments with you to remain precious. He keeps the thrill to himself.
8. IF YOU CATCH HIM MAKING GLIMPSES
A guy who is in love wants to see the woman (or man) he likes. If you are standing from a distance, and you catch him glimpsing at you, he is already missing you. So, ask your friends to check if he is looking at you, [don’t do it yourself so it would not be so obvious that you’re also looking at him as well].
9. A GUY WHO LIKES YOU HAVE NO EXCUSES
If a guy really likes you, he does not have any excuse not to see you, not to go out with you, or not to be briefly with you, even if it is just a 5-minute chat in front of the water dispenser. If he has an urgent job to do and deadlines to beat, he will find ways to reschedule your “date” as soon as possible. He may even waste 5 minutes talking to you on the phone just to set a date. The earlier the date he chooses, the more he wants you and he really regrets not being able to cancel all his appointments. Give the guy a break; he needs to keep his job too.
A guy who likes you enough will never lie to you. It does not matter, big or small lies, he will never lie. If he does, he’s not really into you. You’re just one of his prospects. Even if he cannot tell you some truth about himself and his past relationships, he will avoid the topic or say “it’s too personal.” But he will never lie about it. Period.
Of course, these are just some of the signs and there are still more. Bottom line, if you want to know if one particular guy likes you, do not ask your girl friends, ask another man, preferably not a friend. They can give you objective answers. Don’t ask Oprah, ask Obama. Some words of caution though, these signs may not work for people who live out of the box. I mean eccentric people who thread a different path. In addition, these signs do not always apply to people who are in love with their career. For them, they have already found love and so they are contended, and who can blame them. Working hard can be orgasmic. “That’s all.” (1)_____________________
(1) Miranda Priestly’s famous line (“The Devil Wears Prada”)
(First published in “The Chair” Blog)